Last night at our small group, they all told me that they would make sure I got a ticket if I still want to go. I really do want to go. The thing is, I haven't left my baby overnight yet. I know, I know, this is my 3rd baby and this isn't anything new to me (leaving a baby overnight for the first time) and I left both of my girls overnight before they were even a year old, but it still isn't an easy thing to do. I know that he (and the girls) will be in good hands while I'm gone, but I kind of feel guilty. He is very clingy to me and I know he will miss me (will he think I abandoned him? I don't know.)
I realize this sounds irrational and that I should just go. I need time away from my job and all the chaos that is my life too. But....argh....I don't know what to do here.
The other thing is that a few of the ladies from my group are staying a second night for a little R&R and I've been invited to join them. This sounds like a lot of fun. I hardly ever get to do this kind of thing and it will probably be a long time before another opportunity to do this comes up again. So I guess I'm asking you blog world, should I stay or should I go? (<---remember that song?) I know I should probably take the opportunity and go, but how do I get over feeling guilty about leaving my baby for the first time?
6 comments:
You should def go Lo!!! All mommies need some re-coup time. And, it will give you a chance to relax with some friends.
This time away will give you some renewed strength and energy. And it will allow for some boy-daddy bonding time. That's always good!
As I told you last night, I think that you should go. I can take care of the leedules and I don't think that our kiddo will think that you've abandoned him. It is not like you will be away for a week and I doubt that he has that good of a sense of time to know exactly how long that you are gone.
I don't see him usually for about 10-12 hours at a time and yet he doesn't have an issues with me. He loves when he gets to see me and usually prefers me to everyone but his mom.
I think you should go. It might help him break the clingyness a little bit, since he will have to rely on me for everything for a few days.
You should go. The guilty feeling is natural and will go away in time. That is how mother's work. Have some much deserved R&R and some fum.
I say you stay home. Keep the baby on your hip all day and night, take care of the other two and your husband. Do this for 18 years, while depriving yourself of any time with the ladies. ok.../sarcasm off.
Thanks for the nice comments about my girls. Being a father of two is already starting to be quite tiring. I cannot imagine the challenges with 3 when the kids out number the parents. Have a great day.
Well, I've pretty much decided that I am going to go. Like I said, these opportunities are few and far between and if I don't go, I will probably regret it later (like on the day of the conference and I'm at home pulling my hair out!) I know he'll be fine, but I'll miss him too. Plus, I'm sure the time will fly while I'm there, cause I'll be havin' so much fun. (I hope!)
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